Comments on: Connected Parenting Key: get curious http://www.awakeparent.com/Shelly/get-curious/ Shelly Phillips offers parenting tips, help and classes Thu, 02 Feb 2012 14:47:34 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Jackie http://www.awakeparent.com/Shelly/get-curious/#comment-3496 Jackie Wed, 17 Mar 2010 00:03:50 +0000 http://www.awakeparent.com/?p=911#comment-3496 Thanks for your reply! It is definitely the need for efficiency and mostly cooperation, you hit it on the head. Great reminder to deal with myself before I try to deal with her. :) Thanks!! .-= Jackie´s last blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/EverydayLifeAndBalance/~3/IAS4PN3HsHs/are-you-having-an-if-you-give-a-cat-a-cupcake-day.html" rel="nofollow">Are You Having an “If You Give a Cat a Cupcake” Day?</a> =-. Thanks for your reply! It is definitely the need for efficiency and mostly cooperation, you hit it on the head. Great reminder to deal with myself before I try to deal with her. :) Thanks!!
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]]> By: Shelly http://www.awakeparent.com/Shelly/get-curious/#comment-3495 Shelly Wed, 17 Mar 2010 00:01:12 +0000 http://www.awakeparent.com/?p=911#comment-3495 Hey Jackie, I'm glad to hear that my blog helped you! I love it that you were able to gain new insight into your daughter through really listening. Regarding slowing down and listening, my first thought is that breathing deeply has helped me to stop rushing and relax enough to really listen to kids. I think that rushing can be an addiction in our culture, so I've consciously created a life in which I have extra time built in so that I don't need to rush so much. I may start to get ready 20 minutes earlier just so that I can relax and enjoy my getting ready time. Regarding frustration, I'd recommend that you tune in to what has you feeling frustrated and maybe take a moment to offer yourself some listening and empathy. My guess is that you're needing efficiency or cooperation in the moments when you feel frustrated, but it could be something completely different. Perhaps you need to call a friend for support or hit a pillow or do something else to release the frustrated energy. Then, when you've taken care of yourself, you'll have much more space to listen to you daughter and it won't even feel like work! Thanks so much for your comment Jackie! I hope this helps :) Hugs, Shelly Hey Jackie, I’m glad to hear that my blog helped you! I love it that you were able to gain new insight into your daughter through really listening. Regarding slowing down and listening, my first thought is that breathing deeply has helped me to stop rushing and relax enough to really listen to kids. I think that rushing can be an addiction in our culture, so I’ve consciously created a life in which I have extra time built in so that I don’t need to rush so much. I may start to get ready 20 minutes earlier just so that I can relax and enjoy my getting ready time.

Regarding frustration, I’d recommend that you tune in to what has you feeling frustrated and maybe take a moment to offer yourself some listening and empathy. My guess is that you’re needing efficiency or cooperation in the moments when you feel frustrated, but it could be something completely different. Perhaps you need to call a friend for support or hit a pillow or do something else to release the frustrated energy. Then, when you’ve taken care of yourself, you’ll have much more space to listen to you daughter and it won’t even feel like work!

Thanks so much for your comment Jackie! I hope this helps :) Hugs, Shelly

]]> By: Jackie http://www.awakeparent.com/Shelly/get-curious/#comment-3493 Jackie Tue, 16 Mar 2010 22:21:11 +0000 http://www.awakeparent.com/?p=911#comment-3493 This one is big for me. I get so rush rush rush that I hurry my kiddo through her stories and assume I know how they end. The other day I just listened and asked questions as you suggested here and I heard this very amazing story and it gave me some interesting perspective into her life and experience. I'd love some suggestions on how to slow down and listen especially when frustrated or in a hurry. :) .-= Jackie´s last blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/EverydayLifeAndBalance/~3/SInK7jxwqJg/garden-planning-preschool-style-project.html" rel="nofollow">Garden Planning Preschool Style [Project]</a> =-. This one is big for me. I get so rush rush rush that I hurry my kiddo through her stories and assume I know how they end. The other day I just listened and asked questions as you suggested here and I heard this very amazing story and it gave me some interesting perspective into her life and experience. I’d love some suggestions on how to slow down and listen especially when frustrated or in a hurry. :)
.-= Jackie´s last blog ..Garden Planning Preschool Style [Project] =-.

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