Comments on: How to handle tantrums lovingly http://www.awakeparent.com/Shelly/how-to-handle-tantrums/ Shelly Phillips offers parenting tips, help and classes Thu, 02 Feb 2012 14:47:34 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Chris Fretwell http://www.awakeparent.com/Shelly/how-to-handle-tantrums/#comment-6213 Chris Fretwell Wed, 05 Oct 2011 22:32:53 +0000 http://www.awakeparent.com/?p=685#comment-6213 I think the source of the tantrum and its timing play into it too. A tired or hungry child will react a bit more extreme (as would an adult) and no matter the trigger for tantrum, you need to address the underly factor first. For us safety comes next(for example getting across the road rather than lying in the middle of it or removing child from the objects being hurled at his brothers face). Then the source of the tantrum comes next in how it will be dealt with. I dont think there is a cookie cutter approach to them. And while I'd rather not have to endure the glares of others with a public tantrum, my kids come first. (I once had someone tell me to hit my toddler to shut him up, like that would really work) I think the source of the tantrum and its timing play into it too. A tired or hungry child will react a bit more extreme (as would an adult) and no matter the trigger for tantrum, you need to address the underly factor first.
For us safety comes next(for example getting across the road rather than lying in the middle of it or removing child from the objects being hurled at his brothers face).
Then the source of the tantrum comes next in how it will be dealt with. I dont think there is a cookie cutter approach to them. And while I’d rather not have to endure the glares of others with a public tantrum, my kids come first. (I once had someone tell me to hit my toddler to shut him up, like that would really work)

]]> By: rose http://www.awakeparent.com/Shelly/how-to-handle-tantrums/#comment-3976 rose Wed, 07 Jul 2010 02:01:21 +0000 http://www.awakeparent.com/?p=685#comment-3976 if i just walk away, my boy will slowly stop his tantrum. he knows that his crying will get nowhere. if i talk to him, he cries more and more... and i get more and more upset!! if i just walk away, my boy will slowly stop his tantrum. he knows that his crying will get nowhere. if i talk to him, he cries more and more… and i get more and more upset!!

]]> By: What's Going On http://www.awakeparent.com/Shelly/how-to-handle-tantrums/#comment-2073 What's Going On Thu, 24 Sep 2009 22:09:57 +0000 http://www.awakeparent.com/?p=685#comment-2073 you need a lot of patience to handle tantrums - especially if they happen often you need a lot of patience to handle tantrums – especially if they happen often

]]> By: joel http://www.awakeparent.com/Shelly/how-to-handle-tantrums/#comment-2070 joel Thu, 24 Sep 2009 03:57:03 +0000 http://www.awakeparent.com/?p=685#comment-2070 very good article...tantrums is normal for young childs...just talk to them calmly & they listen very good article…tantrums is normal for young childs…just talk to them calmly & they listen

]]> By: Rob http://www.awakeparent.com/Shelly/how-to-handle-tantrums/#comment-1790 Rob Mon, 31 Aug 2009 18:52:44 +0000 http://www.awakeparent.com/?p=685#comment-1790 Great article. I found when paying attention to your child, getting down on their level helps a lot. During a tantrum (that I have no idea what started it) I grab my child's hand and say: "Show me what you want" She usually gets up and walks with me to what she wants. If she shows me something she is not allowed to have, I know to give her a good distraction right away and move on. Sitting there and telling her NO over and over never seemed to help :) Great article. I found when paying attention to your child, getting down on their level helps a lot.

During a tantrum (that I have no idea what started it) I grab my child’s hand and say: “Show me what you want”

She usually gets up and walks with me to what she wants. If she shows me something she is not allowed to have, I know to give her a good distraction right away and move on. Sitting there and telling her NO over and over never seemed to help :)

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