Comments on: Tired of hearing NO!? Help your kids say YES!

By: Robert

Robert — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 16:23:05 +0000

No is tough to hear, but kids will be kids. Great post.
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By: Shelly

Shelly — Sat, 03 Oct 2009 06:17:33 +0000

Hey Erika, Great addition, thanks for sharing that! I think your intention to empower your kids is a huge key. Especially since this same question with a sarcastic tone of voice could create the opposite effect. Hooray for asking kids to figure stuff out on their own!

By: Erika Willaert

Erika Willaert — Fri, 02 Oct 2009 14:09:59 +0000

I ask, “What do YOU think?” when I am asked for something they know is not reasonable or appropriate. It empowers them to make informed decisions.

By: Nadina

Nadina — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 20:34:41 +0000

Aw, Jill, that’s a great toystore example! I am so happy to have reminders like this, because I feel like I was very attuned to things like this with my first, but now that I have three, oftentimes just keeping the house running (ie making sure everyone is somewhat nutritiously fed, somewhat cleanly clothed, and there’s at least a path to walk through!!) seems so all-encompassing, that the little yeses often fall by the wayside. Tomorrow is my favorite day, Friday…seems like an excellent day to practice the art of YES!!!

By: Jill

Jill — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 01:41:51 +0000

Ah, the toy store…one thing that helped with my son before going into one of his favorite stores was making an agreement ahead of time (because I so much hate saying “No…” every five seconds). We agreed he wouldn’t ask me for something. So instead he went around saying, “Someday, I’d realllly like to have THIS!!!” (And THIS. And THIS!!!) That way he got to express his joy and excitement at seeing all the toys, and also realized he could enjoy them without “having” everything. And the pressure was off me. Now if only this worked every time…
Jill

By: Marisa

Marisa — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 22:37:13 +0000

Thank You. I learned so much from this post. I wish I had read this before our visit to leapin lizards toy store! I will be putting this info in my arsenal for everyday use!