Comments on: What we resist persists: practicing acceptance of the present moment http://www.awakeparent.com/Shelly/what-we-resist-persists/ Shelly Phillips offers parenting tips, help and classes Thu, 02 Feb 2012 14:47:34 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Valerie http://www.awakeparent.com/Shelly/what-we-resist-persists/#comment-3474 Valerie Thu, 04 Mar 2010 21:40:51 +0000 http://www.awakeparent.com/?p=919#comment-3474 Love your honesty Shelly. We all know what you're talking about. And great insight. It's so true. When we take a few minutes to connect instead of insist the energy changes and things work out feeling much better for everyone. I'm guessing tomorrow mornings routine before school will be much smoother thanks to this post. Thanks for chosing to DO IT. :) With Gratitude, Valerie Love your honesty Shelly. We all know what you’re talking about. And great insight. It’s so true. When we take a few minutes to connect instead of insist the energy changes and things work out feeling much better for everyone. I’m guessing tomorrow mornings routine before school will be much smoother thanks to this post. Thanks for chosing to DO IT. :)
With Gratitude,
Valerie

]]> By: Patrick McMillan http://www.awakeparent.com/Shelly/what-we-resist-persists/#comment-3471 Patrick McMillan Thu, 04 Mar 2010 02:13:20 +0000 http://www.awakeparent.com/?p=919#comment-3471 Shelly, what a wonderful post:) I use this with my boys all the time, and I must say it is a wonderful way to model empathy for our kids. My boys just mellow right out when they know "I get it" and I am always sure to repeat back what their concerns are just so they know for sure that i got it. At that point its easy to redirect their attention toward thinking about something they want and the incident is soon in the past. I would like to put a link to this blog post on mine if you don't mind? Thanks again Shelly:) Hugs! Patrick Shelly, what a wonderful post:) I use this with my boys all the time, and I must say it is a wonderful way to model empathy for our kids. My boys just mellow right out when they know “I get it” and I am always sure to repeat back what their concerns are just so they know for sure that i got it. At that point its easy to redirect their attention toward thinking about something they want and the incident is soon in the past.

I would like to put a link to this blog post on mine if you don’t mind?

Thanks again Shelly:)

Hugs!
Patrick

]]> By: Jill Nagle http://www.awakeparent.com/Shelly/what-we-resist-persists/#comment-3469 Jill Nagle Thu, 04 Mar 2010 00:56:37 +0000 http://www.awakeparent.com/?p=919#comment-3469 Beautifully said, Shelly. One way I have worked with the multiple and intense desires for toys that arise when we go into a toy and game store (and help prevent myself from feeling drained and "pulled on" by repeated requests for purchases) is to encourage him to express what he wants full tilt, but instead of asking me to buy it, saying "Someday, I'd really like to have THIS! And someday, I'd really like to have THAT!" Wow--what a difference! I felt I could support him and be a yes to his desires, and he also got to be a yes to Wanting Big. BTW, Shelly, I am calling you soon for a session! Love, Jill Beautifully said, Shelly. One way I have worked with the multiple and intense desires for toys that arise when we go into a toy and game store (and help prevent myself from feeling drained and “pulled on” by repeated requests for purchases) is to encourage him to express what he wants full tilt, but instead of asking me to buy it, saying “Someday, I’d really like to have THIS! And someday, I’d really like to have THAT!” Wow–what a difference! I felt I could support him and be a yes to his desires, and he also got to be a yes to Wanting Big. BTW, Shelly, I am calling you soon for a session! Love, Jill

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