Wow–that was an experience–recording my first video blog! Apparently I have a bunch of technical things to learn. Let’s see how much better my second one gets.
But enough about me. Karin, one of our readers, had a question about responding to her child, who gets scared of lots of different things. I loved thinking out loud about this. Here’s my response:
This is just a beginning. You can hear Shelly and I talk at length on a broad range of topics involving feelings, ours and our children’s, in our new audio program, Perspectives on Feelings.
Thanks for the video/post. It is relevant for our family.
My son is 4.5 years old and can be a very cautious, timid child. He can also be a boisterous participator and initiator. Dynamic social settings challenge him. He requires a lot of time to settle in...sometimes longer than the activity itself! My sense is that this is who he is and continuing to work on coping skills, including helping him name his feelings and choose how he wants to proceed sometimes from a couple of options I might suggest, is the best support I can give.
I'm seeing a couple of measures of success. First, he is very comfortable with daycare and gaining comfort with going to social events at our church. Second, he sees me express reluctance sometimes and he makes suggestions to me about how I might handle it based on what works for him.
All of that to say, I found your post comforting!
MY SISTER HAVING THIS PROBLEM FOR LAST 3 YEARS SO I CAN UNDERSTAND U"R PROBLEM. BE WITH HIM/HER MOST OF TIME , LET HIM/HER FEEL THAT HE/SHE IS NOT ALONE. TAKE HIM OR HER TO DOCTOR EVERY MONTH ..... THATS ALL I CAN SAY....
Thank you so much for your post! My wife enjoys your blog so much! Just want to let you know as she's a little bit shy :) .-= aleksey´s last blog ..Pregnancy Weeks 13-16, Month #4 (Pregnancy Health Guru) =-.
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Thanks for the video/post. It is relevant for our family.
My son is 4.5 years old and can be a very cautious, timid child. He can also be a boisterous participator and initiator. Dynamic social settings challenge him. He requires a lot of time to settle in...sometimes longer than the activity itself!
My sense is that this is who he is and continuing to work on coping skills, including helping him name his feelings and choose how he wants to proceed sometimes from a couple of options I might suggest, is the best support I can give.
I'm seeing a couple of measures of success. First, he is very comfortable with daycare and gaining comfort with going to social events at our church. Second, he sees me express reluctance sometimes and he makes suggestions to me about how I might handle it based on what works for him.
All of that to say, I found your post comforting!
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