In my work with young people there are some needs that come up again and again. The need for play is a great example. Kids need lots and lots more play than we need and they let us know about their need in ways that are sometimes difficult for us.
But the unmet need that I notice most in young children is the need for autonomy. Children desperately need to be able to do things on their own and to choose their own path and luckily for you, there are simple things you can do around the house to support your child’s autonomy.
First, take a tour through your home in your mind. Starting at the front door, do kids have a place to put their coats and shoes when they get home? Is the place for coats and shoes easily accessible? For children under five years (and for older children and even adults) the easiest place to put a coat is on a hook near the front (or back) door. And to put shoes on and take them off, a child-sized bench to sit on is quite useful.
As you move through your home in your mind, consider whether your child has access to the things she needs. Can she reach toys and books in the living room? Art supplies, dishes, water and a snack in the kitchen? Is there a stool in the bathroom that makes using the toilet and washing hands easy? Can he reach the towel to dry his hands?
Each room of your home should have an activity for your child available in case he wants to be in the same room with you, and in case he doesn’t! Continue reading “Autonomy is the holy grail of childhood”
