When I was a teenager I was flipping through my baby book and I saw a letter my mom had written to me before I was born. It was sweet and heartfelt and at that moment I knew on a deeper level how very wanted I was and how special I was to my mom even before she met me for the first time. It has always been important to me that I make a conscious choice to become a parent and that I wait until I’m really ready to take on the responsibilities of parenthood. So here I am, just two weeks away from my “guess date” and I’ve decided to write a letter to my baby to welcome him or her.
I notice that the closer I get to giving birth, the more my thoughts are turning inward. I’m beginning to focus on the center of my universe more than ever before. I’m preparing my nest, connecting with my husband, and enjoying the quiet alone times. So, rather than sharing some new parenting tip or technique, this week, I’m just sharing from my own heart. I’m glad to know that I can share so personally here along with all the other ways I share. And I hope you enjoy this special blog. So, here’s my letter to my about to be born baby.
Wow, you’re almost here and we are so excited to finally meet you. Your dad and I have been waiting for you for 9 long months and pretty soon we’ll get to see you, touch you, and gaze into your beautiful eyes. I’m especially looking forward to holding you in my arms and nuzzling your sweet smelling head. Let’s spend hours together just cuddling, nursing, sleeping, and enjoying life together.
I can’t wait to be your mama. I’ve been preparing for motherhood since I was a young girl and I feel so ready to welcome you into my life. I’ve studied everything I could about how to be a good parent, how to help you learn and grow, and how to be the best example I can be for you. I’ve even practiced by taking care of lots of other babies and kids, but really it was all for you. Taking care of you and teaching you how to take good care of yourself sounds like the most fun and rewarding thing I could possibly do in my life. Thanks for helping me fulfill my life’s purpose.
Just wait ‘till you meet your dad. He’s fantastic. I just know he’s going to be such a wonderful daddy to you. When I was choosing a husband I decided to choose the man with the biggest, most beautiful heart I could find. And that’s your dad. He cares so deeply, and shares himself so openly. I love his honesty and the way he has trouble keeping a secret, even when it’s a fun surprise. I completely trust him to take exquisite care of all of our hearts, which is really the most important task of all. And on top of all that, he’s hilarious! With your daddy in our lives, we are sure to have lots and lots of laughter and fun.
My friends keep telling me that you’re “one lucky baby” and I agree. I’ve always thought of myself as one of the luckiest people I know. And I’m so happy to pass on my good fortune to you. In fact, there’s no one else I’d rather bless with endless good luck and the ability to appreciate and enjoy it.
One of my deepest hopes is that we can always communicate openly with each other, that no matter what’s happening, you know you can always come to us, share whatever’s on your heart and we’ll always love you no matter what. There may be times when we don’t like each other very much, but even then, please know, that we love you dearly, deeply, and without conditions. And even in times when you think you don’t, we’ll remember that you love us too. Because that’s how it is in our family, we practice unconditional love and acceptance no matter what the circumstances.
So, welcome to life on Earth, and welcome to your family. May you be surrounded by love, inspired to learn and grow, and always know that you are deeply cherished.
So much love, Your Mom
I’m curious, have any of you written similar letters to your children before they arrived? What kinds of things did you share? How do you feel about having written to your unborn child? And what impact do you think your letter will have on your child as he or she reads it later?
Have a fantastic week. Warm hugs, Shelly