What to do When Kids Ask Why? Why? Why? Why? Why?

What to do When Kids Ask Why? Why? Why? Why? Why?

The “Why” stage has hit. My daughter cannot seem to stop herself from repeatedly asking why. Almost every kid I’ve known goes through this at some point and if you’re anything like me, you find this incredibly irritating. “Why,” you ask? And I remember the long ago voices of my parents tightly saying, “Because I said so!” I used to hate that answer but now I think I understand it a bit better. The repetition that I found so comforting and habit forming as a child, is just really very annoying as an adult. So here’s the approach I take. I like to consider the underlying … [Continue reading...]

I’m Not Pregnant Anymore

I'm Not Pregnant Anymore

Ouch. We’ve had a miscarriage. Our baby died. And even though I know that one in four pregnancies end in miscarriage, that doesn’t make this any easier. If you’re squeamish or don’t want to read the details of my experience, read no further. I’m about to share exactly what happened from my perspective. I thought I was at the end of the first trimester, so when the nausea went away at 13 weeks, I just thought it was because I was transitioning into the second trimester. But then I had a tiny bit of spotting. At that point, I got worried. That night I had one of the most vivid … [Continue reading...]

12 Easy Ways to Help Kids Unplug

12 Easy Ways to Help Kids Unplug

I’ve been reading Dr. Laura Markham’s book, “Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids” and this week as I read about helping children cooperate, one of her suggestions really stood out. Dr. Laura recommended that if you’re not getting enough connection and cooperation, you might want to try unplugging. This is not just some thought, idea, or wild [...]

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12 Ways to Encourage Failure and Why You Definitely Want to Do it

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Now why in the world would I suggest that you’d want to encourage your child to fail? Well, current research is telling us interesting things about which character traits are associated with lifelong achievement and success. It’s also showing us that these “traits” are not simply inborn, but can be actively taught. Character traits like [...]

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You Don’t Have to Work So Hard to Entertain Your Baby

You Don't Have to Work So Hard to Entertain Your Baby

Well, the secret’s out. We’re expecting! And as I contemplate the inevitable chaos of introducing an infant into all of our lives there’s one idea that brings me a huge amount of peace and calm. It’s the notion that babies can actually entertain themselves. I was first introduced to this idea by Janet Lansbury and [...]

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4 Keys to Setting Boundaries That Get Respected WITHOUT Using Bribes, Threats, or Punishment

Setting Boundaries That Get Respected

My daughter is about to turn three and her willfulness is definitely growing, as is her ability to reason and negotiate for what she wants. I wish I could say that this means that conflicts and tantrums are even further reduced, but on the contrary, it seems that her new negotiating skills simply fuel the [...]

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7 Keys to Getting Kids to Listen

7 Keys to Getting Kids to Listen

Isn’t it amazing how selectively our kids listen to us? If they don’t like what they’re hearing, they have an uncanny ability to tune it out and engross themselves in a book or toy instead. I’m sure you’ve experienced this universal kid skill. The thing is, it’s not just children who tune out. We do [...]

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Guest Post: Finding Contentment in the Midst of Chaos

Finding Contentment in the Midst of Chaos

Guest Post by Heather Chauvin I used to believe that parenting was this ‘life sucking’ transition where you no longer can do anything for yourself and only give give give. That parenting model wasn’t working for me. I had no idea what I was getting myself into but I knew something needed to change. The [...]

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The Little Known Secret to Happier Healthier Kids

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We all want what’s best for our kids, but with all of the conflicting information out there, sometimes it’s difficult to tell exactly what that might be. Rest assured, what I’m about to share with you is one of the easiest ways you can help your child develop a healthy immune system and prevent depression [...]

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Want to Instantly Turn Defiance Into Cooperation? Try This!

From Defiance to Cooperation

Some of the most frustrating moments I’ve experienced while being with young people are those times when I really need their cooperation and instead I get met with defiance. I’m trying to get out the door and they refuse to put on their shoes. I want to sit down for dinner and they’re running around [...]

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